Relationship Marketing: Lead through Influence

The Gold in Building a Thriving Business:
The more you’re willing to give of yourself, lift another up – the more your business will grow. I always preach significance. This is truly the heart and soul, foundation of your business growth. It requires giving before receiving. How many of you have witnessed in similar businesses – the “give” wasn’t there? You could almost “smell” a sale on them – that your purpose in their connection with you is only a sale? How does that feel?

Set Yourself Apart

With so many out there in network marketing that don’t “get it” – you can set yourself apart! Weak leaders create weak teams – that’s exactly what they do. It’s not what you’re doing. Or are you? Maybe you’ve been misinformed or misled, now today you can identify important ways to change. Fundamentals of success, involve: do the work and create a strong team with significance. Get along side of them, put your arm around them and walk with them. Leadership is not in front, pointing. It’s walking along side of people, guiding, that’s a true leader. You improve your leadership with this giving desire for others.

You lead through influence, not authority.

It comes down to your belief. Is it time to call yourself out? Are you seeing success in your business? If you don’t, it may be time to look at the way you approach leadership. People follow leaders because they’re convicted in their mission; they believe in success and change. We waste our time over thinking this; just be an encourager, share your enthusiasm, caring and work ethic. We are all relational beings. Remember that. Always remember that! Bring your heart into your business and you will see big changes! It’s not about you! When you get that, you will achieve true success.

Significance: Having a Mentor

Mentoring. I never had that example in life of a mentor in my early years; and we can truly are crippled without one. Often, we are put in scenario’s where we don’t know what to do, or the best way. How does one become a good parent, or a caring spouse? How does one attract success? Many times we have a canvas of our life of where we want to go, but we need someone to help us spread the paint and guide the brush! What is it you wish to accomplish?

And how does one get to that point and succeed with their goals? You must have a mentor; the only way you become successful and significant in another’s life – is when you have the opportunity to be led by another and see how when you have a mentor you are pushed farther and recognized more. Who is that person for you? A mentor can give you the tools you need in your life, show you how to use them effectively, and push you to become that driven leader you are destined to be.

Which brings me to my next point – the most important aspect of relationship marketing. Relationships are what it’s all about; engaging, accountability, phone calls, time in person. Anything you can do to bring that one on one relationship forward. Remember how you were or weren’t engaged and be to someone else what you would want in a mentor for yourself! When I met my mentor, the person who changed my life – we were bonded like brothers. Spend time with people; listen with your heart, not just your ears.

Always continue to grow.

Personal growth for a leader, means to look inside, think about your own values when it comes to people, how those you respect and admire act- how much weight they carry. You are that person for another! This is how transformation happens.

Transforming your business begins with transforming your relationships!

So simple of an answer, most miss it. As a Leader, you’ll need to engage each person, find who is on that brink of building, be there for them!

Treat everyone at first as though they are your biggest builder and let them determine their future. Not everyone will go on to achieve their potential, but you may inspire that one life changer just because you took the time to have faith in them and show them the way. If you’re not engaged with your people – you won’t be aware, let alone be able to guide. Take charge of your life, charge of your direction, shift accordingly and ultimately – watch your business grow.


A time comes in your life when you finally get it…

When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere, the voice inside your head cries out – ENOUGH!

Enough fighting and crying, or struggling to hold on.   And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes, you begin to look at the world through new eyes. You become aware. This is your awakening…

You realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world, there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you and in the process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process, a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive and that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “taker” looking for your next fix. You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry.

Then you learn about love.  Romantic love and familial love.  How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away.  You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or more important because of your status in life, or the wealth you have, or the position attained. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn that alone does not mean lonely. You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of needs expressed are perfectly OK and that it is your right, to want things and to ask for the things that you want and that sometimes it is necessary to create a list of non-negotiables, and live by it.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won’t settle for less.  You allow only the hands of others who cherish you, to glorify you with touch and in the process, you internalize the meaning of self-respect.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen, is different from working toward making it happen.

You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time:  FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear, is to give away the right to live life.

In This Awakening… you have entered a place of self-awareness, a place of peace, a place of understanding of your “Grand Design.”  Now, and only now can you move forward and embrace the Purpose of your life, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

Choose Abundance of Life,


My Discovery | A Journey

First Thing i did was try to understand that restless, “life just doesn’t seem right” feeling that I had been carrying around.

This was key in getting started…
I was then looking for that one thing that made me dramatically different from everyone else. I firmly believe that every bump, smile, bruise, bout of happiness or sorrow in my life was there to prepare me to serve mankind in some way, shape or form.

I am finally whole and as strong, powerful, harmonious and happy as ever. I’ve hurt some feelings and have had mine hurt as well. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I realized that my life simply is and I needed to accept it as it is before I could design it the way I wanted. Salvation comes through inspiration or desperation. In my moment of choice, here is what I came up with:

I knew that life offered me more than what I was seeing. I wanted magic-a magical way, simplified, not void of earth’s natural limits; but a bonafide, tested, simple way to leave a life of lack and easily step into a world of abundance and success.

Once finding the secret while living a life of “quiet desperation”‘ I knew that I could show others how to live the life of their dreams. With that here is my discovery of Purpose.

To help empower others to live a successful and abundant life…….

To help end the needless suffering due to lack of information (people perish from lack of knowledge)….

To change the outcome of people’s lives.

I will visualize where they are going and their outcome and lead them on this journey.
I will be an artist and paint the strokes of color on their canvas.
I will walk with them through their darkest days, and celebrate the sunshine in their lives.
I will believe in them before they do.
I will love the unloved.
Iron will sharpen Iron.
I will introduce them to the potter of their lives.

I Can….and I will.
I will Live, I will Love, and I will Matter!!!


Transform Your Relationship With Fear

Transforming Your Relationship with Fear

• Face it
• Explore it
• Accept it
• Respond to it

Facing fear means that we end the running, cringing, and hiding from the scary voice within us, the voice that will always find us no matter where we run or where we hide. Exploring means that we turn and walk toward the big scary Bully. If you think that doesn’t take some courage, just wait. Accepting it, contrary to misconception, does not mean we agree with fear, or that we like it. To accept is simply to realize there are some things we cannot change. The sooner we accept that the scary messages running through our minds will not be erased, the sooner we can move on to investing our valuable energy in the last of the four steps. Responding to our fears is what it is all about, but the ability to change our responses can only be built on the foundation of personal growth and change.

Overcoming Fear:
1. Take small steps….Allow yourself time and patience in this process. Getting to the stage where you really feel like you need to stop waiting and take action can take some time.

2. Engage in some concrete, positive motivation….Take 5 minutes. Take out a piece of paper and a pen. And write down all the wonderful ways you can come up with how making this change will improve your life. Writing down all the good things you will gain in your life by overcoming fear can be powerful.

3. See failure and rejection in a new light…often it is easier to not do something because we fear failure and rejection. When we are able to accept this as part of our journey, as part of moving us toward our ultimate “calling” then we become willing to handle failure and rejection as part of the price to pay for success.

4. Be in the now….what this means is to keep yourself steadily in the now. As a mentor, I want to tell you that when you start to worry, look down at your feet. Where are you standing? What are you doing right at that moment? That is what you have control of. It is important to not let your thoughts and emotions run away to the future or the past. Being in the now means not getting your mind stuck in a kind of psychological and emotional headspace that is placed in the past or future. It means not dwelling on what has gone wrong before and what could go wrong tonight or tomorrow. Such thinking will only create and ramp up your fear to the point where you feel unable to do anything. Realizing that you DO have control of what is happening now and appreciating that moment makes you feel more empowered and helps you to see the small successes of every day.

5. Redefine you and your reality….an addiction to positivity can lessen the fear in your mind of what might happen in a new, unfamiliar situation or how someone might respond to what you are saying. A negative view of the world can create fear and hold you back.

To redefine your life, you must understand your creation, declare your uniqueness, and claim significance both in your own life and the lives of others. By focusing on that which you have been called to do, the pebbles in the road that seem like boulders, remain pebbles, and the boulders are reduced to pebbles.

My friends the fears that slow us down and hinder our journey…can be overcome and you may live a life of victory. This journey is worth the struggle, it is by this overcoming that you will live a life of Significance!!

Be Epic,

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