Today I’m concluding this series in Living With Passion. We are going to talk about the “N” in passion:
NEVER, EVER QUIT.
You’ve heard me say it before; struggle is less painful than regret.
Struggle is less painful than regret.
Am I getting the point across? Struggle is less painful than regret. I remember when I was in the Amway business, I sometimes went over to the home of a certain guy in my organization. We used to cut out pictures of his dreams and put them on the refrigerator. I’d sit down with him and his wife and we’d draw all their dreams, we’d stick them on the refrigerator. He also had three kids, so we’d sit down with the three kids and cut out their pictures of a pony and all the little toys they wanted, and we stuck them on the lower part of the refrigerator so that they could see them every single day.
After he’d been in the business for about a year but he hadn’t gotten where he’d expected to get even though he really had worked some, but not hard enough yet. I remember this guy telling me one night and he said, “I’m going to quit. I think I’m going to quit this business.” And I’ll never forget that because it just tore my heart out. I used to always get my heart torn out when people quit because I just always wanted so much for them to succeed.
With what I knew of their lives and what their lives were about, and the vision I had to see what they could really become instead of who they were today. But I remember him saying he was going to quit. And you know what I told him—and I think it was pretty strong, but I told him: “Don’t tell me you’re going to quit, because it doesn’t make any difference to me. I mean, I want you in my business, and I want you to grow, and I want you to have all the things you want in life, but I can’t make you do that. I can’t change your life. You’ve got to decide.
But the people that are the closest to you, your wife and your three kids…Remember that night we sat and cut all those pictures out and put them on your refrigerator? And remember the ones we cut out for your little kids and put them on the refrigerator? Here’s what I want you to do. I want you to have a family meeting tonight and bring them out in front of the refrigerator. First of all, I want you to bring your wife in and I want you to take the pictures on the top of the refrigerator and I want you to start peeling them off and I want you to say, ‘Remember we were going to do that? Well it’s never going to happen for us. We were going to go on this trip? Well, that’s never going to happen for us.’ And start peeling them off and look your wife in the eyes and tell her that you’re quitting on her.
You’re quitting on your kids. You’re quitting on your family. You’re quitting on yourself.” And then I said, “When you’re done with that, then bring your three kids in and start peeling their ponies off and start peeling all the stuff off that lower part of the refrigerator. Let me tell you something, brother. It takes so much more courage to do that to your wife and three kids than it will ever take to have the endurance to finish this business, to finish this race, and to accomplish this business.”
You talk about being afraid. That’s scary to me. Telling someone I’m quitting would scare me more than anybody ever asking if you are in the Amway business or if you are in network marketing. That would freak me out. I couldn’t sleep at night thinking about that. And I know that sounds strong, but for a lot of us, that’s what we do. We get dreams and goals and things we want to do with our lives, and we talk about them, and talk about them, and then it gets a little hard. It gets a little tough and, all of a sudden, we back off. We’re on that middle tread and we start backing down that spiral staircase.
I want to challenge you all today to listen to this; the struggle to achieve success is much less painful than the regret of never having tried or quitting once you start. And all of you will live one of those two things. You will take on struggle in your life, and you will grab it and you will take it head-on. You will go at it face-to-face and you will charge forward…or, you withdraw. But when you withdraw, you will someday, when you’re sixty-five or seventy years old, God willing you live that long, and you will look back on your life and you will know that you never did what you were called to do.
The greatest sadness in life is the man
whose dream has died, yet he still lives.
My goal for all of you is to live your life with passion, the defining difference. In our lives, in our businesses, in every relationship we have, when we wake up in the morning and our feet hit the ground, we must ask with passion: What is on my list to do today? What is the purpose in my life? If you can understand that, and you can grasp that, and you can embrace it, and you can get on the field and in the game and quit sitting back and letting other people play the game, you can get on the field. You were designed for it.
You were designed to win.
Live your life with PASSION, that will make all the difference.